In my life I have learned MANY lessons and each day I learn more and more. Yesterday even I saw a lot and my eyes were opened to what really matters and that is to FIRST support and assist those who support as assist you! The problem is that you can't change the mind kd someone who doesn't see what they are doing wrong in the first place. And not everyone will do what they say when they say it or how they say it. Certain things will maybe make you angry or upset or even hurt your feelings but for me the good thing is that I know enough to know that it's better to find at least one person who no matter what will go all in and help you do what needs to be done and for me that person is my husband! No matter what he's always supportive and I know without a shadow of a doubt that he looks out for me over anyone else. Once I found him and had him behind me... There has been a change in my life because that is TRUE love and support and THAT means the world!
Never let the things you want make you forget the things you have! This month has been AMAZING for me and I have been working away and in my mind so much that I ended up with tunnel vision! I was so out of it I totally misplaced my equipment to make this weeks video and every since I have been off all week! But I am getting it together.
See the things is that none of us are perfect. Sometimes we get caught up in he busy-ness of life and forget to live! We can be so focused on what is coming that we overlook what's right there!
I had been discouraged for a while because things didn't move at lightning speed with my business but slow and steady wins the race and everything happened for a time and for a reason and I just had to stop this morning and just really Thank and Praise God for helping me see what I needed to see and be able to do what I need to do in order to progress to the next level.
See I may not be rich yet but I have done enough in the past year to completely alter my life forever and I am just so thankful and so blessed that I HAD to stop and pause and THANK GOD for all he continues to do for me and with me! I know that my steps are ordered and things will happen in God's time! 🙌🙌
The past few days my head has been quite cloudy and on top of that I have been having major technical difficulties and my laptop is completely done because it's literally falling apart and to some degree I felt it was a sign.
Guess what folks! It happens! Life is not always lollipops and rainbows BUT you must decide or WE must decide what our worth is and our self worth based on what WE see and nobody else.
I watched a video online the other day that basically to sum it up kinda said we are zombies to our touch screens and social media and I whole heartedly agreed. However to many this would seem like something I probably disagree with because of what I do and the fact that I am connected to the world via social media so much.
But the truth is we forget that social media isn't always the truth. I mean we ONLY see what the camera shows and furthermore only see what the person showing us WANTS us to see! You never know what is going on behind the scenes even tho what's on the outside appears to be one way.
The people who only have a few followers online most likely have way more friends in REAL life. Those who have THOUSANDS and tens of thousands and hundreds of thousands may have no one to say I love you at the end of the night so YES what we must see is that our self-worth cannot and SHOULD not be measured by likes and followers. These things don't mean anything! Hitler had thousands but JESUS had 12!
So when you are online and people don't like you or u follow you or pass over what you share or say it doesn't matter! YOU meaSure your own self worth and you live your life for yourself!
To those bullied on Facebook and Instagram and even YouTube. The ones the world makes fun of but they don't care because they know how they view themselves and the confidence is all they need! Do not conform! Because you were born to stand out!!! Love yourself! Continue to grow in yourself and enjoy the ride! Your life can be so much better when you love it for yourself because we only get once chance! It's not a rehearsal!
I am seriously having technical difficulties lately! Please be patient with me while I fix everything this weeks video may be a little behind schedule 😔
Aaah so this week we are addressing perserverance and what can come from never giving up right. So let's think about this. Have you ever..... No scratch that.... How many times have you given up on something?
How many times AFTER giving up did you want to kick yourself for NOT having the guys and the strength to keep pushing?
How many times have you decided that you WOULD NEVER give up?
Have you ever decided to learn something and really put your mind to it and energy into it to perfect it and make it AMAZING?
What will bring you success?
Do you think that Michael Jordan missed shots or passes or even lost games?
Did you ALSO know that according to Michael Jordan he has NEVER lost a game.... He only ran out of time....
Imagine what could happen if you change your perspective. Let's think about failure as a SUCCESS that needs a little work. When I first started sketching I would get so frustrated and annoyed when my drawings didn't look like my reference picture. I would ball up the paper and give up in the drawing and try a new one... If that didn't work I did another and another. And one day my dad saw all my trash drawings scattered all over the floor and opened a few.
He said to me... "Now why did you throw this away...." And showing me the paper I had thrown away as trash and it only had a couple lines on it...." You gave up before you took a chance... Don't give up if it doesn't look right.... Use lighter lines and keep pausing to make sure you are doing it right! Now.... Try the first drawing AGAIN and don't stop working on that picture until it's RIGHT!"
The particular drawing I was attempting was from a coloring book. A page with daddy and bugs bunny facing each other with guns drawn as if in a showdown in the mid west... They both wearing a lot of detailed clothes.... I went for it!
Can I tell you when I showed my dad he honestly believed that I traced the drawing but I didn't! I kept the drawing for many many years because for me it was my FIRST reward for NOT giving up! And I had earned it!
So there are never endings.... Only new beginnings.... If today doesn't go as planned..... Prayerfully you wake up tomorrow and you can try all over again! A new beginning may be just what you need! But never ever give up! You are worthy!
So since this week I started off with a video about NOT QUITTING so today I will share with you a story. This is how I learned how to Airbrush in TEN DAYS!
So in 2012 I was looking for ways to work in my field of Art since I hadn't had a job in art since I got my degree in 2007. I looked thru Craigslist and applied for anything that would allow me to create.
In my search I applied as a face painter at Kennywood (local PGH amusement park) and anything that caught my eye which was also a airbrush position at the mall that the ad said would be trained so I applied.
Months passed and one night at almost 11 pm I got a call the owner of the store saw my website and begged me to come to meet the airbrush artist but told me j would have ten days to learn from him and then would be on my own in the shop with another artist that knew how to airbrush.
So needless to say the HEAT was on! I was SCARED! I had never tried to airbrush and in my mind I was a mediocre artist at best. So instead of saying I didn't know anything and I was afraid. I accepted the appointment and interview. With sweaty palms and shaky hands I hung up and jumped for joy! It was my chance! But then shortly after DOUBT came!
So after I doubted myself I had to stop and think and Brian (my awesome husband) said that I could do it and not only could I do it that I would end up a great airbrush artist and that people would call me for all kinds of stuff. I smiled but didn't believe him lol.
The next day I came into the shop and stood watching this AMAZING artist crank out shirt after shirt beautifully painted and I felt a huge lump in my throat! There was no way I was gonna be able to do this (so I thought) and then the owner came in to basically tell me I would be training for ten days paid and then if I was good enough I would be hired. So I was ready even tho I was afraid. I spent the day watching.
The next day it was time to take action and so I picked up the airbrush the first time and it was a MESS! Fuzzy lines, I couldn't control the airbrush and I was like OMG this is not going to be good. But Marcus (the amazing artist) laughed and told me it's ok..... Try again.... Then again... And the first day was darts and lines and dots and I felt a lump in my throat because it was only day one.
Day one turned into day 6 and I had started to write the alphabet. Great right..... 4 days left and yay I'm drawing letters... And it wasn't all that smooth.... But Marchs kept smiling and saying I was doing great. I just knew deep down he was really laughing at me. But he wasn't.
I had pretty much gotten the hang of things and even though I doubted myself up until the day Marcus was about to leave. So it was time.... My first shirt... My first order all by myself. A black hoodie with a baseball and a name. NOW... If you know anything about airbrushing black is not the ideal color to paint because it takes a few go arounds to make it dark enough to show and show well. I was so nervous they would hate it then I did it. I did the best I could at the time and she LOVED it! The test was over..... I was officially an airbrush artist in ten days.
So what if I had allowed my fear to keep me from this wonderful opportunity and I never tried because it SEEMED impossible! I forgot to mention on day 7 i airbrushed a full portrait which was my BIGGEST fear and the shirt remained on display the entire time I worked in the store. Even tho I abruptly quit the store the owner still sends me customers and people who would like to make custom orders and now I run my own business and will soon open my own custom shop and attempt to teach someone else how to airbrush..... Maybe not in ten days but it certainly taught me NOTHING is impossible! Nobody ever knew it was only a few weeks for me as orders begin to pour in and soon my confidence level increased and I know I can paint anything on canvas so now I can airbrush anything.
Never let what SEEMS to be impossible frighten you so much that you don't take a huge leap of faith and BLOW THE WORLD AWAY! It can happen! It happens to regular people every single day.....
Ever feel like giving up?!?!?
Have you ever really just sat and felt everything that you have tried didn't work and you are ready to throw in the towel?.... It happens to EVERYONE! But the stronger ones learn how to kick the feeling as quickly as they can and surround themselves with positive people and positive actions that pull them out of the ditches of life a CONQUERER! So are you a Quitter or a Conquerer? I prefer to stand on top of my challenge and light fire to the pile! Burning all doubt, fear and frustration and fueling my fire with hope as the Phoenix rises from the ashes!
Often times we may feel lost, oberwhelmed, angry, frustrated, sad, envious, full of pride and even sometimes depressed. But what is the answer? What do we do when these feelings and emotions arise and take over us. We end up becoming someone we don't recognize. We lose ourselves because we should always be focused and calm, loving and happy!
People may think that this is impossible BUT I assure you that it's very possible to be happy more and sad less! It's possible to see the positive in every situation and see the glass as Half full instead of half empty. No matter what happens the one thing we CAN control is US.
We have full control over our emotions and our actions and that is just about he only thing in this world that we can control.
When I'm lost I have to look to my roadmap. There is an answer for every problem a positive to every negative in this guidebook for life that we have here but many keep it as an ornament. Never cracking open the pages... Or only on Sundays to read a few verses of scripture taken out of context used in the Sunday message. But do you STUDY it?
In order to past tests in school we must study a textbook. The Word is our textbook for life and if we don't study.... How can we show that we are worthy of the blessings because we can't pass life's many many Tests!!!
So many of us end up as "know it alls" thinking we are above training, studying, learning, and we feel we don't need anyone to instrct us on anything..... We are "good" BUT there is something we can ALL learn from one another and we can learn the answers to all life's questions if we SEEK out the answers and STUDY the word and our lives wouldn't be falling apart of our roadmap was falling apart!
So this morning I woke up to my renewal email telling me that I am about to hit one year as an ItWorks Distributor! So what did I do? I got ready eyed!
A year ago I wasn't a distributor and Brian and I were discussing if I needed a second job or if I should go back to airbrushing at the mall for some steady additional income because he went from Independant contractor to salary position with his company and he wanted the benefits. We were afraid of course I mean we had just started to get back into the groove of things after being homeless and pretty muh jobless for about a year during my pregnancy and his recovery..... I WISH I knew about itworks then BUT it was a time and place for everything.
I didn't intend to sign as a distributor when I joined! I only wanted to call for a friend who wanted to try the products but I immediately saw the benefits and shortly after I REALLY discovered that this would change my life and in one year it HAS! I have been successful and we have been blessed and that usually doesn't happen within a year of starting a business! It took me SEVEN years to turn real profit from my art business but I did it so much faster and now I am able to do even more with everything that I do! I have learned so much and grown a lot in a year and it's a blessing to continue to help others to the same!
It doesn't have to be like a prison! You should be more afraid that a job that you devote so much to and get excited about can cut you off just like that! I know enough now that I can be an entrepreneur forever because of the skills and talents developed just in the past year by learning from the leaders in this amazing company!
How can you achieve freedom?!?
By taking action! Find out more today! you can JOIN me and I WILL teach you!
Are you the type that is bitter all the time?
You wake up in a mood..... Your attitude is horrible..... You curse the edge of the bed for being in your way and then tell at the Cheerios for not being cheerio enough.....
If you are that type... Changes are you just got a little annoyed by my words.... It's ok.... CALM DOWN.... Your attitude is just stank! Yes I said it..... Do your friends or those who are always around you say you should smile more, be happy.... You seem to argue and fight with everyone and everytime there is drama your name always seems to find it's way in the center.... Well see now you have graduated.... You have become a HATER..... Yes... Believe it or not.. You are a hater of the worse kind... You don't even realize you are so angry at the world that you don't care about anything at all, just the fact that you enjoy getting under people's skin.
Well guess what..... You can't change a hater! They will hate and be a hater until they see that it's lonely out on that limb. Do not, I repeat DO NOT give in to a hater and allow a hater to tear YOU down.
Haters gone hate.... Pototoes goin potate! My dear friend Wendy shared this with me the other day. Now it's ok if you are affected by the hate... We are human... Of course we get annoyed and upset and even angry because of a hater or a group of haters BUT in the end what they think matters not at all because as long as try stay a hater they will NEVER be a winner because the two do not go hand in hand. In this world the successful people are those that put others first. It's not about what monetary gain or fame to claim etc. For those who are really successful and feel the success because of the changes in their lives then they are the most successful. We are to learn as much as we can about life, love and te pursuit of happiness and then we have to pour into others but a hater is so selfish they aren't pouring into the community pool.... No... They exclude themselves NOT sharing their gifts with others so they are dying inside and angry at everyone else because they haven't done it themselves. They are green with envy and that's ok.
5 ways to deal with a hater..... GO
1. WIN!- whatever the goal, the prize, the end result.... GET TO IT as fast as you can! Because as soon as you master theta the hater said you couldn't.... They feel silly!
2. KEEP WINNING- yea so a real hater won't stop when you achieve the first pal or so.... They will KEEP hating but secretly they are envious and want you to fail so they feel of they keep hating at some point it will get to you.
3. KEEP proving them WRONG!- repeat steps one and two!
4. Smile and Laugh and enjoy life as much as possible- because the words of a hater may OCCASIONALLY dying BUT if you are REALLY on some NOPE I'm not letting it stop me..... Smiling andaughing will come naturally and in time you will learn to ignore or even welcome the comments and side notes from a hater.....
5. Look in the mirror- are YOU the hater? Maybe nobody is hating on you at all because you actually don't have anything to be hated on about because you aren't doing anything..... Ahem... Yes..... It's possible that the person isn't hating.... They could be saying the truth you aren't ready to hear so be sure to check yourself FIRST!
6.When all else fails... Tell a hater you said EFF YOU! Yup I said it lol.... Sometimes it's ok to have to put someone in their place.... I suggest praying before and after you do this but hey if it happens all of a sudden handle your business and then pray after HA!
Be sure to protect and guard yourself because whatever is going on in your life you KNOW when something isn't right for your spirit and just give it to God in prayer but if it IS just a hater do not allow them to get to you. They are really just mad at you for doing what they secretly wish they could..... They want to be successful and feel better about themselves, their situation etc. They really need love so pray for them!
Dawn aka Javi is a Super Cool 32 year old wife and homeschooling mother to 2 young boys and now one new baby girl!!